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that two consenting people entered into the covenant
of matrimony AND the Church contends that no person
and no state can break that covenant.9
(Even the Catholic Church, as you will read, does not
have the authority to break the covenant of matrimony.)
However, if an impediment or a defect in the man's or
the woman's consent can be determined to have existed
before the wedding took place, then it may be established
that a marriage was an invalid covenant from
the moment that it was attempted.10
In the process of petitioning
the Catholic Church for a Declaration of Invalidity,
the Church begins an investigation to determine whether
there were any causes11 that
may have prevented one or both persons from being competent
and capable (ready, willing and able)12
to give their consent to each other on the wedding day.
If it can be established that an impediment or a defect
of consent existed at the moment of matrimonial consent,
a Declaration of Invalidity will be issued. However,
if no Declaration of Invalidity is sought or issued,
then the Catholic Church submits to the words of Jesus:
"...Whoever divorces his wife and marries another
commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her
husband and marries anther, she commits adultery."
Mark 10:11-12 NRSV
With this concept of being
in a relationship with God clearly in mind, the Catholic
Church wants to discourage you from seeking a Declaration
of Invalidity. The Church appeals to your understanding
of your everlasting relationship with God and encourages
you to restore yourself in your marriage covenant.
One avenue for this restoration to occur is a Catholic
spiritual retreat known as Retrouvaille (French word
meaning "rediscovery"). This is a scripture-based
weekend retreat intended for couples who are struggling
in their relationship, for couples who are separated,
and for couples
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who are
civilly divorced. The openness of each person
to "rediscover" self and the spouse in Christ
is a prerequisite. (For more information, contact
a Catholic parish community or the Retrouvaille website
at http://www.retrouvaille.org)
As this Preface comes to a
close, one burning issue remains: children.
Oftentimes, people have a concern regarding how the
Church will view their children if their marriage receives
a Declaration of Invalidity. If you have this
same concern, know that even though your marriage may
be declared to be invalid, the Church always acknowledges
any child born during your (legal) marriage to be (legal)
legitimate. In addition, the Catholic Church always
upholds the dignity of any child as being a creation
of our Creator and honors and cherishes that child in
this reality. If you are Catholic, it may be of
importance to know that if any of your children received
any of the seven designated Catholic Sacraments, these
Sacraments are valid and do not need to be celebrated
again.
While proceeding through this booklet, be aware that
the Catholic Church recognizes that it is undertaking
a great task while investigating your marriage.
The Church is treading upon Sacred Ground and realizes
the importance of its responsibility to be thorough
and confidential.13
Therefore, the Church does not trivialize this process
and it will prudently handle your marriage with great
diligence and utmost care.
As you begin to petition the
Catholic Church for a Declaration of Invalidity, I pray
that you will encounter the living Christ and will be
able to more authentically reflect your relationship
with God to each person that you meet throughout your
life...especially your spouse.
Peace be with you!
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